Friday, June 23, 2006

Setting Standards, Making The Grade

I have friends who set standards. I myself set standards for my own life. I remember my friend who said "I am never gonna fall in love with a regular guy." She said she wanted somebody who has -- money, power, influence. At first I felt insulted -- I only wanted someone who would love me, someone I can also love, someone who will accept me for whoever I am. Inspite of my being flawed and human. Well guess what...I realized...we can all get what we want. Everything is attainable. So what was I thinking selling myself short?

I realized it was okay to set standards...on friendships, on relationships. I studied my friends...yes, I set standard on friends. Yes, I dont judge people but I choose who I become friends with. I usually go with those people who I got along with. So's a standard. Right?

So I can also set a standard in choosing a partner. He could be at least a collage graduate from a reputable school, with a non-sissy course. He could be a board/bar passer if what he finished in college required this exam. He could be someone who was honest, respectable, with good breeding, open-minded, liberal, out going and accomodating. He could be someone who would easily get along with my friends. He must be someone who can stand up for me too. Someone who didn't need to do a** kissing for anyone just to get by. Someone who can speak good english, articulate, ambitious, well-read, well-mannered...and the list goes on. Why am I doing this? Because I am a well-educated person. I am liberal, open-minded, ambitious...I am alot of things. I was brought up properly. I have overly scrutinizing folks who would say everything and anything about people around me.

My grandma would always tell me, "I have so much to offer, I shouldn't settle for less. I must find someone who can level with me."

And she's right.

I may have done some stupid things the last couple of months but it has helped me reach to where I am right now. I gained lessons. I gained experience. I realized alot. And I'm happy I was miserable for a while...for if not. I may still be out there lost, scared, pining for someone.

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